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Dad's move, cont.

Dad's move, cont.

Spending lots of time phoning and contacting various services regarding Dads move.  I feel not too bad about it now, I’m afraid the chickens are going to come home to roost soon though and whatever stress is lingering out there will alight.

In some ways I find the process of getting him moved interesting and challenging, something to be overcome and whipped into shape.  I have a number of helpers and I’ve found (fairly recently) that people are more than willing to help if you ask.  I have tried to avail them of that assistance as needed, and it is a weight off my shoulders when it happens.  Trying to accomplish all of this within the week we’ve had will be a feat for sure, doing it alone overwhelming.

I slept pretty well last night waking only once around 2 am.  Not sure if something woke me or it was some internal switch that came on saying “hey, what’s up?”  It could have just been Mo coming to bed.  I fell prompty back to sleep though and woke again when the alarm went off at 5.

I do wish I felt energized like I did a few months ago.  I did have the desire and energy to do small projects after getting home from work, something I had not had for some time, and haven’t had much of lately to speak of either.  Perhaps it’s just that I need to buckle down and do it, could it only be that simple?

I don’t recall if I mentioned this but my daughter Ay has formally announced she is pregnant, it will be 15 weeks this Friday if I count correctly.  I’m gunna be a grandpa.  I guess technically I am already as my other daughter Tr has children but we don’t know them and I’m not sure if they consider us family still or not.  Another saga for another day.

Dads move

Dads move

Progress is being made and with luck we will have him here next week.  We had planned to visit him anyway and this will fit, if/when the plan comes together.  I’ll get my sister to pack him up and we can load his stuff Saturday afternoon and bring him home Sunday.  It will be a long couple days but having him here will be a big improvement.  Dealing with his care from 600k away is a bit onerous at times.

Dad's condition, Stressed again

Dad's condition, Stressed again

I’ve talked at some length to Dad’s hospital social worker about his condition and prognosis.  I won’t go into detail here, both because it’s not required and because it’s expensive doing it on my phone while using roaming.

Suffice to say he’s doing ok medically but the congestive heart failure has not been stabilized, yet.  We talked about his future and where his needs could best be met, at his home or elsewhere, ie an extended home facility somewhere, possibly here.

I feel a bit stressed by the whole thing and that was one reason I didn’t want to go there.  Am I a bad person then?  Am I abandoning him in his time of need?

We were never what I would call close, my father and I.  In fact I’d have to say my relationship with both my parents was somewhat distant.  That’s how I recall it anyway, and it may be fair to say my memory might be inaccurate, although the reality is that my whole life now and how I act, how I am, is based on that history and how I saw it going down.  All of that perception of my past was used in part to determine how I raised my kids and what I wanted my relationship with them to be.

Sadness over Father and Step-Father

Sadness over Father and Step-Father

I’m very sad today thinking of the loss of Larry, my stepfather, and potential loss of my Dad.  Am I doing the right thing by not going down there to Langley to see Dad?  I feel like an uncaring son but in reality and couldn’t do much even if I was there.  It’s a weekend and all we could really do is visit him and be a moral support for him.  It could be good for him but would it be good for me or more stress?